What Should I do…
location~ Office with a tree and butterflies.
thought~ Don’t scratch your head to find out who is my crush in office. This is not my story.
Office romance is fairly common these days as the office is where we spend so much of our time. It can lead to a relationship if you handle it well, the other way around, it can hurt you bad enough.
I got a story here.
Raynor and Lindsay are colleagues. Same department, same office and they are seeing each other every working day. Raynor heard from his friend that Lindsay has a crush on him, but that was 3 years ago and no action taken by anyone of them. Today, is the other way round it seems, Raynor found himself fall into Lindsay. Raynor is a man of principles, he don’t feel it right to have office romance, he told himself don’t take any action until he move on to new job in another company. He understands he might lost her if he miss the chance, but he just can’t persuade himself to get into the relationship.
Which should Raynor choose? His life or his career?
August 7th, 2007 at 5:16 pm
Sigh. If only I know Raynor in real life….I would strangle him.
August 7th, 2007 at 6:51 pm
For me, it’s time for Raynor to change his principles.
August 7th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
never try never know…listen to your heart cos love is an art…
August 8th, 2007 at 1:17 am
Raynor must ask himself, how deep does he love Lindsay. Enough to choose his life over his work?
If i were him, i’ll choose life ofcourse. The love of your life may only be ONE, but jobs can be APLENTY.
August 8th, 2007 at 9:08 am
Dear Mr. Raynor,
I can relate to your dillema very well cause I use to have a friend like you. He is programmer by day, a pro gamer by night. But every time he touches the mouse and keyboard, he will always be thinking of his office crush. And just like yours, his case has been brewing for 3 years too.
He is no longer my friend. He is now my hero. He went against his nonsense principle and with support of his closest friends… he tried. I do not know what happened next…maybe I’ll ask him the next time I meet him.
Anyway, back to your goodself, Mr. Raynor. I hope you can be our hero too. We all need online heroes. Zoe-t is already the self-appointed heroine. You’re the mighty mouse and you have your closest friends here backing you up. Dont let us down. You’ve got all the support.
YP says its time to change and he’s just 17. I dont know how old are you. If you older than him..ai….
MAN says love is an art. You must pick first pick up the brush. Let her be the canvas.
kilzac asked you how deep? tell us u how deep…I also curious. Plenty of jobs? ask her help you do all of part of it.
Dan says wanna kill u. Ignore him.
Brown and cloudy always,
Milo.
August 8th, 2007 at 9:24 am
Dan: Do you want to know him in real life? Then you can settle him.
Yee Piao: Yeah..it’s time, but this Raynor…ai.. *speechless*
MAN: Your 1st time comment gave to Raynor… not me..
but still.. *muacks*
Kilzac: I hope Raynor read this, and take your words.
August 8th, 2007 at 9:30 am
Oh my…. Milo became new moderator of zoe-t.com.
August 8th, 2007 at 10:24 am
Can never understand the so-called principle of not having a relationship with someone in your office. It’s just a work place. Unless you intend to fool around and mess up your own life in the 1st place, then whoever and wherever it is, it will still be the same.
Allow me to ‘proudly’ say that I’m having one, and it’s been great. *ahem*
August 8th, 2007 at 10:40 am
I know Raynor in real life, working under the same roof and seeing him everyday. He likes to tell stupid philosophy what can do what cannot do and list down 10~11 points why it cannot works. He is not a hero, he is a coward, 1) Not dare the express his feeling. 2) The worse thing is he keeps pushing Lindsay to other guy.
Dan : Strangle him ? Not sufficient. I will Bantai him.
August 8th, 2007 at 10:46 am
Ex-S, get 100 sheets of A4 paper and print in bold letters “GO RAYNOR GO!!” and stick on all cubicles except lindsay and raynor’s. Just like election time.
Some bulls if bantai – wont budge. Need a softer n democratic approach.
August 8th, 2007 at 10:56 am
Why bother? Just let him decide what he wants to do with his own life. Some ppl – xpecially those who like to list down a lot of reasons and points to support his own so-called theory and philosophy – never dare to step out from his safe territory and set his own rules. But since he feels safer being the way he is, who cares la. Probably better for Lindsay. There are plenty of good ones out there.
August 8th, 2007 at 3:00 pm
To Raynor : if love can be bound by theories and philosophies, then it will not be called love anymore. so, what do u call it in ur own terms then? Infactuation only is it? :p
August 8th, 2007 at 4:15 pm
All the comments are very encouraging. Raynor, time for you to do something.
August 8th, 2007 at 5:40 pm
Huey, he already decided to go ahead. Just needed extra push. He’s a choo-choo train of happiness thats got a dead engine. We help him jump start it then people on board will be taken for long happy ride up and down the rainbows. Dont rob Lindsay of a very rare good one…ok….
But then again…Mr Raynor… if u decide not to, I will accompany you every day pray at temple. You hit the gong. I take the bell. Kilzac and zoet can donate us coins.
August 9th, 2007 at 8:36 am
I√¢‚Ǩ‚Ñ¢m not sure but i just dun see there’s any dilemma here. No need to choose between life & career wat. Be greedy & take both!!! Start the romance before switching to the new company. If he feels that she is the right one, take action, otherwise, just find a new mate in new company. Man with principles is good, but when it comes to r/ship, throw away your principles & dignity. It will be worth it in the end of the day
I’m a very straightforward person :p
August 9th, 2007 at 9:19 am
u all dont understand me…
August 9th, 2007 at 10:26 am
raynot – time to consider to become a monk.
August 9th, 2007 at 11:13 am
Both rayNOT and Raynor have submitted their application to Kek Lok Si.
It is pending for approval.
August 9th, 2007 at 11:28 am
namo namo…may their applications be approved soon…..
August 9th, 2007 at 5:58 pm
very good perks. can feed turtles everyday. thanks for all the heart-warming support auntie zoe t and auntie sy.
im sure me and Raynor will miss ur elderly advises.
nobody knows my bro like I do. he wants to go but scared to lose. so u all give up ok…no need encourage him anymore.
he’s like when u watch astro then no signal. or like when u disco then police ON the lights. or when u go swimming then he will piss in your pool.
but he’s my bro. i will feed turtles with him..
August 9th, 2007 at 10:12 pm
Someone said he will directly proposed to her when he got the courage, skip the dating stage as he claimed they are too old for dating. *wtf* @_@
August 10th, 2007 at 8:30 am
-.-
Is that so??? Or am I getting the wrong impression here??? This so-called man with principle is getting more & more ******** (I can’t think of a word to describe how much I would want to hit on his face). Personally I see egoistic & naive &… arrggghhh.
Can someone start a school of brain-development & enrol him? Make sure he gets full As. Otherwise, please, get Lindsay other good man.
August 10th, 2007 at 8:51 am
Raynor said…He has the courage, waiting for the correct timing…again.. what the f***.
August 10th, 2007 at 8:56 am
Zoe: If you do know of any good man out there, please do introduce to Lindsay. I believe just by throwing a stone you should be able to hit any better one who has the courage to ask Lindsay out. Let Raynor wait for his correct timing to propose to a lady who has never dated him before. Probably when the correct timing arise, he will have to wait for his courage ‘again’. Then ‘timing’, then ‘courage’, then ‘timing’, then…
August 10th, 2007 at 8:57 am
zoe t, ya thats my bro for you. the bestest person in the world. so he thinks….. but actually he is no.2, i’m no.1. shhhh
******** (8 asterisks).. C,H,I,N…. ya sounds about right. No other words can describe him other than his real name. And i dont think he’s worried about Lindsay going away. He knows her very well. She only likes chicken. CHIN**** is already the bravest chicken around. He never runs…just never go. No one else like him.
August 10th, 2007 at 1:56 pm
Hi all, Hot News!. God is punishing Raynor and he sent a FUN gentleman teaching him lessons. Everyday, Blessing touches on left/right elbows and shoulders …. etc. Let’s see how long Raynor can Tahan, before he is screaming for help.
August 10th, 2007 at 3:35 pm
My sympathies go to Raynor to fall for his colleague. I will advise that he should think twice before he takes action coz he and she will face a hard time in the future. Why am I saying so? Let’s imagine from the view of their superior, what will you think if you are noticed that 2 of you subordinates are seeing each other. Will my staff be able to perform professionally? Will they be able to concentrate on their work? Secondly, is it really true that Lindsay has a crush on Raynor? Will it could be just a rumour.
Lastly, which should Mr Raynor need to choose, I would advise career come first, no doubt, it’s very romantic if your boyfriend can sacrify his job. However, no career = no $$ = no secure = no life.
To Mr Raynor, my advice is you should keep your effort to seek for a good job from now on if you are intent to go after Lindsay. I think this is the only way to break the obstacle. May god bless u alway~
August 10th, 2007 at 4:04 pm
Ooo. Another principle-man comes in.
August 10th, 2007 at 4:28 pm
This is not about the principle~ It’s about the materialistic. You have to think the consequence before you approach a girl. (Of course, think positively, that why I advise Raynor to change his job if he is really like to be with Lindsay. It’ll not break his principle as well)
August 10th, 2007 at 4:44 pm
Just don’t see anything wrong seeing someone at your work place. It’s just a work place. Unless oneself has no discipline, or not even grown up enough to handle a relationship.
I agree with sy. Just can’t see any dilemma here.
August 10th, 2007 at 5:21 pm
I don’t see the point. With your another half working in same office, you can still be very professional. No one asking you to flirt in office. Both of you can still talk to each other like you talk to others in office. Professional or not? You do it.
August 10th, 2007 at 5:23 pm
Yes, it’s just a workplace. Not a big deal if you attached with your collegue. No doubt, I also agree with you that it’s no wrong and no any dilemma as long as discipline and able to complete your assigned job before deadline. But, will your boss can accept it? Not all bosses are considerate!
August 10th, 2007 at 5:34 pm
Zoe: Totally agree with you.
August 10th, 2007 at 5:46 pm
Let’s assume you are very profesional, can you guarantee your boss will not criticism on your professionalism with a reason to have a gf in office when u did some mistakes? It’s very unfair to the all parties. In order to avoid this happen, I would not encourage another half to work in same office. (Other department is different story)
August 10th, 2007 at 5:51 pm
shit.. until now he still haven’t decide yet..
now even the tai kah chech Zoe also trying to help him jor..
August 10th, 2007 at 6:12 pm
My parents met when they worked in the same company, same department. Me myself met my bf in the same company, different department, then requested by boss to work in the same department with bf for at least half a year before I moved on with different projects. Never got any criticism during that period of time. All dispute handled well enough to keep our relationship and professionalism growing.
Sounds good?
August 10th, 2007 at 6:21 pm
As I mentioend earlier, if your boss is considerate, great~ What if not? cham~
Anyway, good luck to Raynor！
August 10th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
hmmm hmmm deep and hot debate. i can tell u all my experience with my workplace romance.
last time i work in durian plantation. each time the durians drop I will run to them and carry 2 back at a time. one on each hand. left and right.
then i dated another girl durian picker like myself. so this time, when the durians drop…I have her to accompany me. but we still can only carry 2 back at a time. i carry one. she carry one. but we hold hands on the walk back. boss got angry.
the next day I bought her an extra pair of pants and asked her to strip off her skirt. Then we hold the corners of the skirt and carry 5-6 durians back at a time. productivity increased 50%!
but i no longer work in durian farm now. I work in cempedak farm now. her skirt keep breaking due to thorns.
anyway…what is so professional about u all commenting on a personal blog at work place? shame on u all.
RAYNOR IS BEST. GO RAYNOR GO.
GO TEMPLE AND BECOME MONK!
August 10th, 2007 at 8:51 pm
Ooo. Too bad I work from home nowadays.
August 10th, 2007 at 8:59 pm
waaaa so fun~~!!! can see tv while work. I just see tree and leaves. when the wind blows…dust get into my eyes. and my bangla colleague think i wink at them.
August 12th, 2007 at 9:30 am
Looks like the debate is over…Wish Raynor good luck.
August 12th, 2007 at 11:20 am
my bro doesnt need luck. he needs a medicine and attention now..he’s sick. he’s been helping me carry lots of cempedak.